Ah, masochistic behavior. When it’s necessary to make a decision on when it’s okay to endure mental and physical pain or when it has become a problem, things can get a little sticky. Fear not! Here are some tips on how to identify when masochistic behavior has become a problem.
1) Are you actually enjoying the pain? If you find yourself longing for a little search and suffering for a mental or physical high, you may have a problem on your hands. That’s right, if you’re looking to suffer for your own personal enjoyment, it may be time for a tough conversation with yourself—or a therapist.
2) Are you endangering yourself or loved ones? If you choose to take essential risks in order to experience a kick from any sort of danger or pain, it’s time to dial it back a bit.
3) Have you really tried other solutions? If you’re experiencing an overwhelming urge to relieve pain by pushing yourself past your limits, or even just to the brink of thresholds, try other solutions first. Look for alternative outlets for your emotions or research ways to reduce pain without risking your health.
4) Do you need more and more stimulus to receive the same high? If your masochistic behavior is beginning to take over your life and you need to keep pushing the envelope to receive the same results, you should definitely reach out to someone soon.
5) Do you feel constantly anxious or depressed? If you find that you no longer feel happy or feel an unfillable void, or if it’s extremely difficult to find satisfaction in anything else, your masochistic behaviors may be affecting your mental health. Talk to a professional as soon as possible.
Ultimately, it is important to remember that masochistic behavior is always a matter of perspective. Pay attention to the signs and look out for any sort of danger. If anything ever feels off, don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. That is the number one rule! Citation.
Are there different levels of intensity when it comes to bondage?
You betcha! If you’re just getting into the world of BDSM, then you’ve probably heard all sorts of talk about different levels of intensity. But what do they mean exactly?
Let’s start with the basics. There are a few main categories of BDSM, including bondage, control, sensation play, and discipline. Each of these categories has its own level of intensity, with everything from light spanking to full-on suspension bondage.
Now, let’s get into the details.
Bondage can range from mild or gentle (think silk scarves) to complex and extreme (you know who you are!). If you’re just starting out, then you might want to look to mild bondage first. Think basic rope play using cuffs and blindfolds.
Control is also various degrees of intensity, from control play that’s gentle and consensual to a full-on Master/slave dynamic. Control-play usually involves activities such as humiliation and power exchange and can be quite intense.
Sensation play varies from light, pleasurable sensations to more extreme, intense activities like electric play. You can use a variety of tools for maximum effect—from blindfolds and feathers to pins and blades.
Finally, discipline types are often used in BDSM to help establish order between partners. This can range from setting clear rules and guidelines to full-scale corporal punishment like spanking, paddling, or caning.
So as you can see, bondage is certainly not a one-size-fits-all activity. Depending on what you’re into, the level of intensity can vary widely—from light and playful to intense and extreme. So whether you’re looking for something kinky or more experimental, there’s bound to be something out there for you.